Have you lost contact of your best friend?

[Sanjeev]

Yes, I lost contact with my best friend from school. After 7 years of being together in the school, I lost his contact. In those times we didn't have mobile phones, and landline phones were rare, and we didn't have them at that time, so only his address was the only contact. But when after a few years I searched for him, I found his family had shifted to some other city.

I tried to search for him on various social media platforms but could not find him.

How do you search for your old friend when you lose contact with him/her?

 

[Kennysplash]

There is this popular saying that 20 friends cannot play for 20 years. At some point we have to move on with our lives and that includes moving far away. When that happens it can be hard to keep in touch.

 

[Sanjeev]

@Kennysplash Yes, this is true, but then there are few people who become so close to us, whom we never want to lose, and we always try to be in contact with them. Have you ever lost contact with such a close person in your life?

 

[RainbowSunshine]

I did lose contact with mine too. We were close for years, then life just pulled us in different directions. I’ve tried social media and mutual friends, but no success. It’s sad, really. Some friendships stay in your heart even if you never reconnect again.

 

[arunima25]

Sometimes, it is hard to stay in touch. I have lost contact of many friends because we grew up in analogue world with no social media. We got connected to many later through social media and one getting to know another one through social media networking. I never lost my best friend's contact though. We stayed in touch with whatever possible ways were available be it phone or email. And now through social media. The irony is that with lesser ways to connect in the past, we were more connected. Now it's getting less talk over phone and just one or two line messages on WhatsApp. I am even in doubt if she still can be considered my best pal. Our lives are so much different in different parts of the world.

 

[uptrendfinancialsignal]

Yeah, I actually have. My childhood bestie moved abroad years ago. We used to gist every day, but life just carried us to different directions. Once in a while, we text on WhatsApp, but it’s not the same anymore. I still miss those random hangouts and late-night jokes. But there's nothing I could do about it because it's part of life, people move, but memories stay.

 

[arunima25]

@uptrendfinancialsignal . My story is so much similar as I have posted above. Yes, life doesn't stay the same or goes on a predictable line. Our journey takes us in different directions. Things change and so do priorities and relationships.

 

[Sanjeev]

Yeah, I actually have. My childhood bestie moved abroad years ago. We used to gist every day, but life just carried us to different directions. Once in a while, we text on WhatsApp, but it’s not the same anymore. I still miss those random hangouts and late-night jokes. But there's nothing I could do about it because it's part of life, people move, but memories stay.

This is the bitter fact of life that no one stays with us for a whole life except our family. And we should always be ready for people leaving us. There are people who easily accept and cope well, but there are people who can and go into depression because of the same.

 

[arunima25]

@Sanjeev . The bitter and hard truth of life that nothing is permanent here. Things change. Situations change, priorities change and so do relationships. No one stays with us forever, even our life partners are not guaranteed to be forever. That's why we say till death do us apart. We are our companion forever. But yes, a big gratitude to all the friends who are not with us, are far, have lost touch with us or even gone for heavenly abode too early, for all the wonderful moments and memories.

 

[King Belieal]

I had a high school friend that I was very close to. We were like twins because you would always see us together for the majority of the times. That guy was the only person that can walk into my house unannounced and head straight to the kitchen. But he got married and the responsibilities of marriage threw us apart. As at now, I don't have his number. I don't even know where to find him.

 

[arunima25]

@King Belieal . I have seen and heard that happening to many friendships. With new stages, new roles and responsibilities, priorities shift. It becomes tough for many to keep in touch. That's unfortunate! Maybe you could find his contact through social media or some common friends. You can give it a try. Sometimes it takes a little effort to break the ice. Maybe your friend is also missing you.

 

[eLdavis]

I had a best friend, we did not loose contact but we simply stopped talking. I have always been the one to make the moves whenever we have a misunderstanding but this time around i wanted her to take the first step, at least this shows how much she values our friendship, but at the end of the day she did not make any move and i didn't this time around as well.

 

[arunima25]

@eLdavis. That was the right thing to do. We don't want our precious relationships to get lost in the ego war or misunderstanding. So, we put our efforts to rectify things and sort it out from time to time. But the relationship is a two way traffic. It needs effort from both parties, one might be putting more. But the other has to also come forward sometimes. Else it can be taxing on one. You can not keep bending your back all the time for others..

 

[Starmix]

Friends won't stay with us forever. After college graduation each one of us in our group looked for a job, others married, and others went abroad. Some of them are my friends on Facebook. My three best friends are now married with Americans and we still get connected. My co - rock bank members are now in Japan. We still get commented through media.

 

[Smokey]

Nope. Me & @Shortie are pretty much in contact every day. However, I have had plenty of friends that I've lost contact with over the years.

 

[Sanjeev]

Nope. Me & @Shortie are pretty much in contact every day. However, I have had plenty of friends that I've lost contact with over the years.

Haven't you tried to get their contact from someone or from a website? I also have lost contact with many friends over the years. We didn't have mobile phones in those days; otherwise, I don't think I would have lost the contact.

 

[arunima25]

I strongly feel that when mobile phones and social media platforms were not there, friendship and relationships were valued more. People found ways to connect and stay in touch through traditional means. Ironically, with social media and digital platforms, we stay in touch but the true connection is missing. My mom and her two friends are friends since their primary school days and they have stayed friends for close to 60 years. That's incredible! They make sure that they meet at least once in a year for few days. And they have been doing it for so many decades now. Except the Covid times, they have always met in person. They have been with each other through all ups and downs and in each h milestones..They have travelled long distances to be on each other's important days be it anniversary, retirement, celebrating achievements etc.

 

[Sanjeev]

That's true. After the introduction of the smartphone, people don't try to meet people face-to-face but video call them to see them. It may be because these days people have less time because of the competition everywhere.

 

[arunima25]

@Sanjeev..competition has been a part or human life since the origin of species. The forms might have evolved along with the evolution of the human being and it's society. The world has become past paced not out of competition but more out of digitalization of things around. Digitalization and technological developments are meant to make life easier and simple. And they all claim to save our precious time. Ironically, life is getting more and more complicated. And everyone is in a rush..

 

[Ginger]

I have lost too and when I finally found him on facebook, it was already too late and even though we are friends on facebook but we hardly chat and haven't shared contacts