Should parents be strict when raising their children or lenient?

[eLdavis]

When it comes to raising kids, what method do you think would be more effective, for the parents to be lenient or should they be strict. I think it would be best to have a mixture of both.

 

[Sanjeev]

I think they must be strict at the time they should be and lenient when required. I have never been strict to my kids but my wife is. My kids do whatever their mom says but ignore sometimes what I ask them to do.

 

[eLdavis]

I think they must be strict at the time they should be and lenient when required. I have never been strict to my kids but my wife is. My kids do whatever their mom says but ignore sometimes what I ask them to do.

I completely agree with this, when it comes to raising a child, there needs to be some level of balance to train the child properly.

 

[Kennysplash]

I see this happen often, when it comes to raising kids parents wonder whether they are too strict or lenient. The truth is, there's no one-size-fits-all answer. Both strict and lenient parenting styles have their pros and cons.

Strict parenting can provide structure and discipline, which can help kids develop self-control and respect for authority. However, from my experience it can also lead to kids feeling resentful or rebellious. On the other hand, lenient parenting can foster independence and creativity, but it might also result in kids who struggle with boundaries and responsibility.

The way I see it, a balanced approach that combines elements of both styles is often the most effective. This means setting clear expectations and consequences while also offering love, support, and understanding. It's about finding what works best for your family and adapting your approach as your kids grow and change.

 

[KrissyCakes09]

I don't have kids and won't be as I had a hysterectomy.

My thoughts on it though is kids get away with way to much and its making them spoiled and rude and I blame the parents for not being strict enough.

 

[Gizmo's iconGizmo]

When I was younger my father would tell me to shut up when I was having fun because he couldn't handle noise

I think a parent needs to be strict when they are needed but other times they need to be fun.

 

[uptrendfinancialsignal]

I think balance is key. Parents need not be that strict or lenient because children needs discipline and at the same time, they need space to develop. My parents were strict but are very understanding and that is what actually influenced the way I perceive things now. It is just a matter of creating limits without being too controlling.

 

[Ginger]

This should be done in a mixed way and you should not be overly lenient or strict with your kid because this can seriously hamper the kids growth so you should be careful about it

 

[Mike30]

I am strict with my kids. Thy will be glad I did.
Spoiling a little bit it's totally fine, but there is a fine line where it just damage their future, self-esteem, and many other things...
I explain them the reasons why I am strict, and the consequences for them if I were not. They understand perfectly.

 

[Kennysplash]

When I was younger my father would tell me to shut up when I was having fun because he couldn't handle noise

I think a parent needs to be strict when they are needed but other times they need to be fun.

Many parents, especially fathers do not want noise in the house. Whenever my dad is at home we all maintain our decorum until he’s not around. Kids will always make noise and jump around, it’s in their nature. But they should also know when to do that and when not to.

 

[Gizmo's iconGizmo]

Many parents, especially fathers do not want noise in the house. Whenever my dad is at home we all maintain our decorum until he’s not around. Kids will always make noise and jump around, it’s in their nature. But they should also know when to do that and when not to.

He was brought up with the "kids should be seen but not heard" way.

 

[Mike30]

Many parents, especially fathers do not want noise in the house.

I thought I was the only one lol....
I explain my kids that those noises just make me to be alert every minute and it exhausts me, because I think they are about to get hurt, or they are crying for something and makes me jump and run to see what's going on...

A couple of years ago, one of them started making the noise of a mountain lion, I swear, I threw aside what I was doing and start running towards them at supper speed, thinking they were in danger ( we didn't have dogs by that time), just to find out they were playing imitating animal sounds...

 

[MamaFrankie]

Having been raised by ultra strict parents, I'd say lenient.